6. The Basic Needs of pupils

You certainly remember your school days. What needs stood out for you at that time? Take a moment to think back in time and answer the following questions.

You can probably guess why you should ask yourself these questions, it's about being empathetic with yourself and others. Maybe you just had an AHA-moment or two, because you still use some of the strategies you developed in school?

Taking pupils' needs important

Think of a recent situation where a pupil has upset you with his or her behaviour.

First, go into self-empathy as described in chapter 4.

Which of your basic needs was threatened in that situation?

 

Why?

 

Now empathise with the pupil.

Which of her or his basic needs was threatened in the situation?

 

By what?

 

When you have found out which of the pupil's basic needs was threatened, you will probably think: "I understand the need, but the strategy was wrong.

What better strategies could the pupil use to meet the need?

 

Think about how you can help the pupil choose a better strategy to fulfil his or her need.

 

One proven method to help pupils find more adaptive forms of behaviour is the Change Talk. In chapter 11. Further Materials, you find a link to more information.